INDIVIDUAL THERAPY

Individuals seek therapy when life becomes more difficult than joyfully. Worry, sleepless nights, irritability and trouble relationships might bring someone in for help.  Sometimes old wounds arise and demand to be addressed. We can find ourselves worn out from our roles and want to find a new way of doing things.  For others it’s that critical inner voice that has beaten us down for so long we find ourselves depressed.  Childhood trauma will also resurface when the psyche is ready to reveal the secrets hidden away.  We can work together to heal from these painful experiences. I often use a combination of therapeutic modalities including: Narrative Therapy, Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, Transactional Analysis, Inner-Child Dialog, journeling, non-dominant hand writing exercise, and some art therapy techniques. back to the top

COUPLES THERAPY

Couples seek therapy to improve communication, work on their negotiation skills and to rekindle the love and passion they felt for each other in the beginning of their relationships. Sometimes the responsibilities of life get in the way of being a couple. Sometimes old hurts resurface and resentment begins to set in. Addressing these situations together, the earlier the better, can save a marriage. Please note that most insurance companies do not cover marriage counseling.  It is an out-of-pocket expense. back to the top

FAMILY THERAPY

A family is a system within systems made up of individuals that can shift and change. When I meet with families I detect alliances, loyalties and fractured bonds between members of the family. Often trouble brews when the kids have gained too much power and the parents are confused about what to do. I provide parenting support and education and get along well with kids and teens. I am honest with them and clear in my expectations which allows them to relax and trust me. We are not born knowing how to raise our kids. Most people tend to raise their children in the way they themselves were raised, even when they vow not to, or they do the exact opposite without realizing the drawbacks. Parenting is the hardest job any of us can do. We are taking on the responsibility of another human being who is completely dependent upon us and who is naturally going to be challenging us.  back to the top

CHILDREN

As a Child Mental Health Specialist, I have years of experience working with kids of all ages. They’re like emotional sponges. Without thought or intention children absorb the emotional environment in which they find themselves. Depending on their ages, children communicate non-verbally through their play and behavior. It is in allowing the child to lead the play, tracking behavior, reflecting on feelings and setting limits that I read a child’s emotional make-up and struggle. I can make suggestions and explain what I see, but it is ultimately the parents who decide what is best for their child. I often suggest reading material for additional information and support. I look forward to getting to know you and your child. back to the top

EATING DISORDERS

Anorexia, bulimia and compulsive over eating are complex and dangerous personal struggles. I have worked with people both in-patient and on an out-patient basis. I believe that these disorders develop as a response to overwhelming emotional pain. I believe that eating disorders are not really about food. They are about feelings. Feelings so painful and scary from abuse, neglect, a host of boundary violations and/or growing up in a chaotic environment that they get pushed down and out of awareness. Eating disorders can manifest as a way to have some control over something, a way to drowned out feelings and a way to escape into another realm. By using an intuitive and empathic approach, I can show you how your eating disorder serves you, where it has come from and what it is trying to say. With strong support and guidance, I will help you to learn the language of emotions and be with you as you begin to feel once more. Recovery is often a slow process but healing is the only way out of the nightmare of living with an eating disorder.  back to the top

GRIEF & LOSS

Losing a loved one, either human or animal can be devastating. Grieving is the process by which we go into the pain and come out again a different person, a stronger and wiser person having shared our love. I provide a nurturing place to explore the complex and painful feelings involved in grieving. I hope to give each person a safe and non-judgmental space to experience the healing that can come from grief. We must go through it because we cannot go around it. It can come as a flood of tears out of the blue, but if we try to hold back and bury our grief we’ll continue to carry it with us.  We have to have the courage, and something permission, to allow ourselves to feel our feelings and come up for air again.   back to the top

 

SEPARATION & DIVORCE

There are times when one or both parties in a marriage want to take a break from living together. I can help in these situations as each person explores their needs, desires and expectations of their marriage and navigate through their emotional struggles. People sometimes grow and change who they are, what they want and how they see themselves. It may be possible to incorporate these personal changes within the marriage when both parties are aware of their role, responsible and love for the other.

If the marriage is no longer viable, there are many options to consider when thinking about divorce. Although your final divorce papers must go through the courts, you don’t have to litigating attorneys. Depending on how well you can communicate and negotiate, you can work out the details yourself, work with a mediator or hire Collaboratively trained attorneys who work together and not against each other. The more litigious your divorce the more stressful, and the more harm done to your children. If you have children together think ahead and picture the kind of relationship you want to have as co-parents. How you behave during your divorce will influence how comfortable or welcome you will be at your kid’s graduations, marriages and other important family celebrations.

Experiencing the loss of your marriage is one of the most painful and difficult experiences in life, especially if it wasn’t your idea to end the marriage. Moving into being a single person again, possibly a single parent can also be a difficult transitions. Having worked with many couples in the process of divorce, I can tell you that there are ways to make it more manageable. I can help you get through these tough times. However, I do not talk to attorneys or get involved with your legal matters.  back to the top

 

CO-PARENT COUNSELING

Thankfully parents who are having trouble co-parenting are coming in to see me. Taking preventative measures will make all the difference for you and your kids. Remember children are like emotional sponges who absorb the emotions in their environments. Even when parents avoid making disparaging remarks about the other parent, children know when there is tension and stress. They feel it and often feel torn between the two people they love most. Your child is part of the other parent and feels hurt whenever that parent is talked about badly. There are many things parents can do to work together, follow the same rules and conduct themselves responsibly so that they raise happy kids who managed to adjust well to the two-family households. back to the top

 

Other areas of practice:

Childhood Trauma:  Being exposed to an alcoholic or drug addicted parent, having been molested or raped as a child, moving from place to place and never feeling safe and settled are all areas of trauma, to name just a few. The pain and consequences of that trauma can be carried bravely by many for years.  It takes it’s toll and there is help available. There is no need to suffer in silence.  This kind of pain saps our joy in life and can impact how we care for ourselves, the decisions we make about relationships and how we view the world, ourselves and what we deserve. It can also impact how we parent.  I encourage you to free yourself of this painful past and allow yourself to opportunity to face the darkness with strong support and come out the other side healthier and happier.

Attention Deficit Disorders:  Living with ADHD is challenging both for kids and adults.  There are tools to use, things that can help.  Although there are medications available and required for some to live a functional life, ADHD is on a spectrum and not everyone is at the far end and needs medication.  Using a watch, setting timers, making lists, forming routines where important things have their place can help create order out of chaos.  Some people use herbal supplements, caffeine and exercise to cope with the way the brain operates.  Some of the most intelligent people among us suffer from ADHD.  For kids it can be ostracizing. Their peers may not understand why their classmate interrupts others, leaves their seat, impulsively grabs things from other people or has difficulty waiting their turn.  There is a lot to learn in childhood and learning about ADHD can help a child understand themselves and include them in their own behavior management.